In which breaking up, while hard to do, is motivation.
It’s been about two weeks since Effin Guy and I parted ways. I wish I could tell you that I’m all, “It’s cool! Things are great!” I am actually struggling with more feelings that I really care to admit. It’s difficult not to feel rejected, unworthy and just bad. These feelings are fleeting but when they come, lord do they come. I’ve decided to meet these feelings where I am and use the energy that I would normally reserve for whining and feeling sorry for myself as fuel for moving.
Here are some things that I am doing as a workout to get over a breakup:
The breaking up workout:
Seated Tuck Jumps (Works your abs/core). For when you get that feeling of a gut punch.
Deadlift (Works your hamstrings and glutes) for when you need a kick in the butt.
Tricep Dips (Works your triceps…duh) for when you can’t push yourself away from the stupid thought circling in your head.
Seated Ab Twist (works Obliques) for when you feel all twisted up.
Sumo Squats (Inner Thighs) for when you are feeling like nothing is right. Squatting will remind you that this position is not right and everything else can be worked around.
Seated Tuck Jumps
I started with sets of 20 reps but now I just do them until exhaustion or I lose my balance.
Deadlift
I have been doing two sets of 15 with 8-10 pound weights.
Tricep
I usually do this to exhaustion so about 20 plus reps.
(This video shows the exercising done seated. I stand because I don’t have a weight bench and I sit enough during my day.)
Abs
I use a kettlebell or free weights and so 10-15 reps for each side.
Sumo Squat
I use a 10 pound kettlebell or free weights and just squat until exhaustion.
Bonus:
This video from Blogalites. She is a monster!
I have been doing this for about a week and feel like it’s helping with my posture, at least. I don’t feel quite so slouchy. I don’t feel quite as mopey and love the idea of making my feelings mean something more than binge eating pretzels. I do like that when The Bee sees me working out, she will grab a pair of weights and workout alongside of me.
Your turn!
Tell me what workouts make you snap out of a funk?
I’m so proud of you. I can feel how sad and hurt you are. Good for you for making lemonade out of lemons!
good for you for trying to get strong during this hard time!
give it some time and the feelings will subside – and by then your body will feel fantastic!
The “Breaking Up Workout” Is kind of a genius term–we’ve all been there, huh? Hope you’re doing ok. Hugs!
I love to work out when I am stressed. It just helps me take my mind off of everything. Getting over a breakup can be tough yet when you are working out it benefits you in more than one way.
Ha–”Effin Guy!” And yuck, I hear you. The thing about breakups is there’s just no way to avoid the feeling shitty part–you’ve just got to walk right through it until you’re clear of it. I love the idea of when you start to focus on something you’re trying to get over using your energy for something else. Before I had kids and was trying to get healthier, I told myself that every time I thought about eating just because I was bored or craving junk food I had to go for a run. I forced myself to do it, and after a few days of that, I definitely began to break the habits and find other outlets to keep my mind occupied. I never thought about applying this strategy to matters of the heart. Definitely an awesome way to keep yourself positive even when you’re feeling down and force your energy into something that deserves it! Here’s to hoping Effin Guy is out of sight, out of mind as fast as possible!
I’m so sorry to read about your breakup. Exercise does work wonders for mind and soul!
I wish we had a gym area in the home with a rubber floor to REALLY get a good workout. I hate sweating into the carpet.
Nice workout! My favorite workout is a ballet class, but I also do DVD’s at home.
Excellent advice – I love your attitude gurrrl! Moving is THE best thing to do -increase your endorphins plus you can do these anyplace, anytime!
While break ups can be hard you are right to take care of yourself. Go get em tiger!
Those seated crunches look like something I could do. This whole workout looks great.